All close human relationships (in every direction) eventually become something to process within one's own psyche. It is most helpful and important to sometimes take them out of grey fog by applying some good hard thinking to them...by privately acknowledging and clarify the recurring dynamics, and by charting effective coping strategies and adaptations for oneself to thrive onward.
It is impossible to be in relationship (in any direction) and not have all sorts of things to adapt to. Everyone comes in some sort of package, as do we ourselves. Therefore, relational work goes on and on...one never finishes with it. Because it is so inescapable, it may be one of the primary reasons for the earth experience--its school--to buff us spiritually in a thousand ways.
“How unsearchable His judgments, and His paths beyond tracing out” (Romans 11:33).