The secret to teaching reading is NOT to teach the capital letters or the alphabet song (if you have already done so, just desist from today onward for several months – ignore them completely). Use ONLY the lowercase sized letters and only the phonetic sound until the young child is EASILY reading three-letter words with lowercase letters ONLY.
This halts mass confusion at that initial reading step – where a child is overwhelmed with twice as many symbols to learn and twice as many sounds to learn. We never READ the word "Farm" as the alphabet letter SOUND "F"arm – (we don't NEED the capital letter symbol OR sound, initially) – we READ it as "fffffffffarm" – using only the phonetic sound. We get three- and four-year-olds easily reading using this first technique, alone. Eliminating CONFUSION.
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