In family life we have a curbside view of the development of another soul, as well as our own soul, as we seek for how to love steadfastly over a lifetime. Every human being is basically incomprehensible, and complex — whether in our spouse's personality, eccentricities, emotions, spiritual life, etc. or in our children (and just a couple of those can be doozies to deal with!) or with one's own parents from one's own childhood life. In all directions we wrestle with the relationally imponderable, and through that wrestling our own soul grows.
Wishing to exchange (for a better model) a child or one’s spouse solves nothing, for we turn and encounter the same impossibilities yet in a different package elsewhere. The only way through all relationships is to walk within them with one hand in the hand of the Messiah, Who has lived inside a cathedral of love inside the trinity eternally. We learn of Him how to get more and more outside of ourselves and how to love committedly and deeply.
It is our own showcase: how well do we ourselves do in our own web of relationship, in our own small world wrapped about us, that God gives us to try out love in all its ever-deeper pathways? A mere human cannot do this; that is why we need daily dependance upon our Maker. The Holy Spirit is our guide, our instant counselor upon demand. We walk forward in the care and nurture of the world's most beneficent spirit: God.
Remember, you have complete command of your own inner brain life. No one ever makes you angry (or lonely or frustrated); you allow yourself to become angry. We can lower our reactivity — internally.
