New insights from good resources can help a struggling marriage survive or a good marriage become better. There is no downside to receiving enlarging marital wisdom all throughout one’s marital life.
Marital dilemma, and the way out
A young struggling wife once declared: “The only way out of my bad marriage is divorce or death! And I don’t believe in divorce!” Many women feel this way at one time or another (men, too, by the way). They forget (or never knew) that there is another very hopeful “way out.” It is called GETTING HELP—perhaps through obtaining good Biblical counseling, reading biblical-based marriage books, taking advantage of wise biblical YouTube teaching videos on marriage, and consulting with seasoned wise older believers. These four avenues can give you staggeringly good and enlarged insights on your current circumstances. Sometimes all it takes is one new thought, or one new way of looking at a situation, to achieve great resolve and peace in your heart concerning your marriage. This help can also give you new strategies of coping well in your marriage and/or of ways to gain better conflict resolution with your spouse.
The old timers did not have such helps, but today there is a plethora of help to any eager seeker. Resources can make even GOOD marriages BETTER, as we have said, so don’t shy away from such help for any reason, or during any season. Sometimes one new thought for a husband can give HIM an “aha” moment, as well.
Consider these resources:
You-Tube videos:
- Mark Gungor…his Tale of Two Brains. All of his other YouTubes on marriage are excellent, as well…watch all of them!
- Drs. Paul and Virginia Friesen’s YouTubes on marriage
- Dr. Laura Slessenger…she majors on PRACTICAL marital help. She is a relationship genius.
Books:
- Wise Womanly Ways to Grow Your Marriage/ Renee Ellison
- Lies Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free/ Nancy Leigh DeMoss
- The Power of a Praying Wife/ Stormie Omartian
- The True Woman/ Susan Hunt (help for the abused woman)
- Treasures of Encouragement/ Sharon Betters (for the abused woman)
For men, a refreshingly different and direct-dealing book: The Garden of Peace: A Marital Guide for Men Only/ Shalom Arush
Counseling:
Sometimes all a marriage needs is a third set of ears. To talk in front of a wise third person can help iron out all sorts of problems as the counselor directs the long-range RESULTS of each spouse’s thinking back to the one who voiced them. A good counselor can give wonderful fresh perspective and direction. Only seek wise BIBLICAL counseling (not secular psychological counseling) from counselors who have shown results in keeping couples TOGETHER (not dissolving their union). Ask for references of couples you can contact to see what kind of fruit/results came of their sessions with this counselor.
If you are in the Seattle, Washington area, Ed Park is an excellent marital counselor. Many couples have gained outstanding benefit from his insights and help—and are currently far happier in their marriages. Contact him at: Counseling.sanctuarySeattle.org /
